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  • 5/22/07
Get real,,this a tv show.He did not know untill the last that he was really in love with Tessa.The love he felt for Bevin was physical because she put herself out there.Being on this show,you will kiss many.I didn't write the show or make the rules,this is how it is done.
  • 8 of 167
  • 5/22/07
I 100 % agree. He totally lead Bevin on. That was heartless.
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  • 5/22/07
Are you a dude? Because if you are, that would explain your ignorance in this matter. If you are a female, you are oblivious as well. You mean to tell me that people don't know how they feel? He has even been on talk shows stating he knew from the beginning who he wanted. Bottom line, he is a jerk and he lead Bevin on in a way he didn't have to. All of the last women put themselves out there not just Bevin. As I remember when it came down to spending the night w/ Andy, They (all 3 ladies) all said yes, but Bevin was the only one who made it clear that she was staying to talk and to get to know him better. I wonder what happened w/ him all of the ladies on those nights behind closed doors. Tessa will be wondering that, I'm sure. you get real, it is a tv show and he knew exactly who he wanted right away,as anyone would, and he has admitted to that. The guy is a jerk!
  • 10 of 167
  • 5/22/07
You have my vote, big time! He was the BIGGEST jerk of all the bachelors. At least none of the others told any of the women that they loved them before the FRC. If that was ABC's idea, shame on them, and shame on him either way for going along with it. T.V. program or not, you do not play with peoples emotions and feelings! He and Tessa deserve each other, apparently she doen't know who she loves until the end of the show either????!!!!!!
  • 11 of 167
  • 5/22/07
i agree with everybody. he told bevin that he loved her time after time. and his family even liked bevin more than tessa. i think bevin should of won.
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  • 5/22/07

The only jerks are the ones who refuse to see things the way they are and carry grudges because they are powerless to change it to coincide with their reality. Let's face facts shall we? The premise of this show is contrived. That means it is staged and not exactly representative of what occurs in the "real world". To put that in plain English, there are VERY few of us that would date a person who was seeing 24 other people. There are very few of us that would want to have to earn the other person's affection every few days in some contrived ceremony that would give us the right to continue to pursue them. Factor in the glare of TV cameras and it gets all the more surreal.

Now because this show is about getting viewers "hooked" and keeping them there to boost ratings, gain advertisers, and hence make loads of $$$ for the network the game is rigged. That means if the Bachelor actually feels deep feelings for one person they are PROHIBITED from showing any favoritism lest it reveal prematurely to the audience whom they care for and end the need to stay tuned and decrease the revenue to the network. That means Andy had to play the part of being torn between two wonderful women and not knowing whom to pick. I say that he knew from early on who captured his imagination and his heart and it was NOT Bevin. She was too fake, too aggressive, too immature, and too needy. Forget that she was married previously, that she was from a different religious background, had numerous tattoos and was supposedly more "liberal" than he was. Andy choose Tessa because she was more real, more intelligent, more in touch with reality, and a woman of style, elegence and grace. Those who have not the eyes to see are doomed to remain blinded by truth. blush

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  • 5/22/07
lindagrafix said...

I 100 % agree. He totally lead Bevin on. That was heartless.
HE DID NOT LEAD BEVIN ON ....HE CHOSE SOMEONE WHO  HE HAS ALOT IN COMMON WITH(ON HIS HOME TOWN VISIT HIS FAMILY LOVED ...REALLY LOVED TESSA....THEY WERE CONFUSED WITH BEVIN...PLUS I THINK BEVIN WAS NOT BEING HERSELF AT ALL  )...BEVIN WAS JUST TRYING TO HARD TO SNAG HIM ....IN THE END TO ME SHE WAS LIKE AN INSECURE ,NEEDY ,IN FACT SHE THROW HERSELF AT HIM .(PLUS SHE WON'T HAVE LASTED AS  A NAVY WIFE ...SHE DIDN'T BELIEVE IN LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS.....DUHHH.... BAD ANSWER! ~ IF YOUR A NAVY WIFE ...YOU SOMETIMES HAVE A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP WHEN THEY ARE OUT AT SEA FOR MONTHS ON END (SHE WOULD HAVE CHEATED ON HIM ...OR DIVORCED HIM AFTER A FEW MONTHS)~THAT IS WHY I THINK TESSA WAS THE BEST CHOSE BECAUSE SHE BELIEVES EVERYTHING WILL BE ADVENTURE (GOOD OR BAD) BUT SHE WILL BE WITH ANDY IN PERSON  AND IN HEART.  GREAT PICK ANDY .....BEST WISHES TO YOU AND TESSA..MAY YOURS LIVES BE FULL OF LOVE AND HAPPINESS!
  • 14 of 167
  • 5/22/07
Obviously you were not watching close enough.  Go back and watch again as Andy is very tense with the family visit with Bevin.  And his kisses to her in the helicopter were skimpy at best.  He knew what he was doing.  He did not lead her on, she just didn't want to see that it wasn't her that he wanted all along.  Tessa was so right in keeping her feelings guarded, she was smart enough to not let herself be suckered.  She knew she was in love with him and took the time to make that collage of all of the special things that they had shared.  She put alot of thought into Andy and that's what made the difference.  Bevin thought that she could snag him on a sexual level.  When push comes to shove, Andy took the compassionate one and will build on that, instead of looking at it as the best roll in the hay.  Love is not about sex.  Sex is what makes love so special.  It's intimacy, not quality or quantity. People can be so in love with that one special person and not even think about sex because they are so wrapped up in just being with that person.  That is what this is all about.  Bevin was too busy throwing herself at Andy and didn't take a step back to see what was going on around her.  If she did, she would not have been crying the blues in the limo, because she would have seen that Andy was totally smitten with Tessa. 
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  • 5/22/07
girlinfla71 said...

lindagrafix said...

I 100 % agree. He totally lead Bevin on. That was heartless.
HE DID NOT LEAD BEVIN ON ....HE CHOSE SOMEONE WHO  HE HAS ALOT IN COMMON WITH(ON HIS HOME TOWN VISIT HIS FAMILY LOVED ...REALLY LOVED TESSA....THEY WERE CONFUSED WITH BEVIN...PLUS I THINK BEVIN WAS NOT BEING HERSELF AT ALL  )...BEVIN WAS JUST TRYING TO HARD TO SNAG HIM ....IN THE END TO ME SHE WAS LIKE AN INSECURE ,NEEDY ,IN FACT SHE THROW HERSELF AT HIM .(PLUS SHE WON'T HAVE LASTED AS  A NAVY WIFE ...SHE DIDN'T BELIEVE IN LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS.....DUHHH.... BAD ANSWER! ~ IF YOUR A NAVY WIFE ...YOU SOMETIMES HAVE A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP WHEN THEY ARE OUT AT SEA FOR MONTHS ON END (SHE WOULD HAVE CHEATED ON HIM ...OR DIVORCED HIM AFTER A FEW MONTHS)~THAT IS WHY I THINK TESSA WAS THE BEST CHOSE BECAUSE SHE BELIEVES EVERYTHING WILL BE ADVENTURE (GOOD OR BAD) BUT SHE WILL BE WITH ANDY IN PERSON  AND IN HEART.  GREAT PICK ANDY .....BEST WISHES TO YOU AND TESSA..MAY YOURS LIVES BE FULL OF LOVE AND HAPPINESS!
I'm no fan of Bevin's, but fair is fair and she did state that she would move to Hawaii if given the final rose. I don't know where you are getting your theory about divorce, but being married once does not mean she would cheat on him. He dated 25 women at once and told many that he loved them, so I would say his chances of cheating is higher. Tessa was looking for adventure simple as she stated. I've just finished reading an interview she did recently and she doesn't sound any more in love then she did last night on the show. After four months she is still stunned that she has a ring.
Edited 5/22/07   by  cristianatavare
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  • 5/22/07

A JERK!!

NAVY OFFICER or NOT..& no gentleman